Self-Compassion:
For Love of God and others. 
Join us for a 6-week small group
self-compassion series for men
Learn the tools that open you up to God's powerful and effective compassion 
Self-Compassion:
for love of God and others. 
Join us for a
6-week small group
self-compassion
series for men
Learn the tools that open you up to God's powerful and effective compassion.
"Self love is the basic form of love on which all others are founded and makes all others possible.... We are always engaged in somewhat repressing this truth, which strikes us as somehow unseemly" 

Josef Pieper
“He had compassion on them. . .”
We know that Jesus had great compassion for each person he encountered, and deep down we long to receive this. Discover how you might be unconsciously resisting God’s love and compassion for you and learn the antidote to discouragement, pride, criticism of self and others, and judgment.

Self-compassion will open you up to greater happiness, security, consistency, hopefulness, and compassion for others.
"Self love is the basic form of love on which all others are founded and makes all others possible.... We are always engaged in somewhat repressing this truth, which strikes us as somehow unseemly" 

Josef Pieper
“He had compassion
on them. . .”
We know that Jesus had great compassion for each person he encountered, and deep down we long to receive this. Discover how you might be unconsciously resisting God’s love and compassion for you and learn the antidote to discouragement, pride, criticism of self and others, and judgment.

Self-compassion will open you up to greater happiness, security, consistency, hopefulness, and compassion for others.
In Self-Compassion: for love of God and others. 
you will join with other men to:
Learn the powerful skill of
self-compassion
Replace your inner critic with a true and encouraging voice
Release patterns of rumination, isolation, and self-criticism 
Accept yourself as you are and access strength to make the changes you want 
ZOOM Small Group Sundays at 6:30 - 7:45 pm Central
January 15, 22, 29
February 5, 12, 19
In Self-Compassion: Seeing yourself through the yes of God, You will join other men to:
Learn the powerful skill of self-compassion
Replace your inner critic with a true and encouraging voice
Release patterns of rumination, isolation, and self-criticism 
​Accept yourself as you are and access strength to make the changes you want 
ZOOM Small Group Sundays at 6:30 - 7:45 pm Central
January 15, 22, 29
February 5, 12, 19
“If you do not know how to love yourself, you cannot truthfully love your neighbor.”
St. Augustine 
“If you do not know how to love yourself, you cannot truthfully love your neighbor.”
St. Augustine 
Hi, I’m Curtis Herbert. Join us. 

We sometimes tell ourselves: YOU ARE SO STUPID, I can't believe how you screwed that up, don't try because you will look weak, just give up ...you are a loser, you are no good. 

... that's the voice of your inner critic. Psychologists tell us that it's essentially UNIVERSAL. It's always waiting for us.

That critic can interfere with God's voice that is generous and always ready to pick us up - even when it is telling us some uncomfortable truths that we need to hear!  

It starts with our own attitude towards ourselves. Will we choose to treat ourselves with the respect that God treats us, with compassion? 

You could learn a new language that inspires and supports you even as it asks you to always be more.

When you’ve lived a lot of life, you will make mistakes and have regrets. Don’t let these hold you back from stepping into the life God wants for you.
Hi, I’m Curtis Herbert. Join us. 

We sometimes tell ourselves: YOU ARE SO STUPID, I can't believe how you screwed that up, don't try because you will look weak, just give up ...you are a loser, you are no good. 

... that's the voice of your inner critic. Psychologists tell us that it's essentially UNIVERSAL. It's always waiting for us.

That critic can interfere with God's voice that is generous and always ready to pick us up - even when it is telling us some uncomfortable truths that we need to hear!  

It starts with our own attitude towards ourselves. Will we choose to treat ourselves with the respect that God treats us, with compassion? 

You could learn to transform the voice of the inner critic into a compassionate voice that supports you even as it asks you to always be more.

When you’ve lived a lot of life, you will make mistakes and have regrets. Don’t let these hold you back from stepping into the life God wants for you.
WHAT CLIENTS HAVE TO SAY...
"... I thought it was not possible to change until I learned this process.”
“Self-compassion has been a lifesaver for me, particularly in addressing my feelings of
guilt and learning to live with acceptance.”
“I see now how important it is to be on my own side.”
WHAT CLIENTS HAVE TO SAY...
"... I thought it was not possible to change until I learned this process.”
“Self-compassion has been a lifesaver for me, particularly in addressing my feelings of
guilt and learning to live with acceptance.”
“I see now how important it is to be on my own side.”
Check out what the research has
to say about
self-compassion:
  • Men who are more critical of themselves tend to be more hostile, critical, and controlling of others
  • In situations of adversity or difficulty, men who practice self-compassion are more resilient, take more responsibility for change, and have more hope
  • Men who have self-compassion have less depression and anxiety, and greater life satisfaction
  • ​Self -compassion has been linked to higher motivation for things like: making amends, improving weaknesses, learning through failure, and commitment to goals
  • ​Self-compassionate men are better at managing negative emotions and creating positive ones
Fear: Self-compassion will make us weak and vulnerable.

Truth: In fact, self-compassion is a reliable source of inner strength that confers courage and enhances resilience when we’re faced with difficulties. Research shows self-compassionate people are better able to cope with tough situations like divorce, trauma, or chronic pain.

Fear: Self-compassion is really the same as being self-indulgent.

Truth: It’s actually just the opposite. Compassion inclines us toward long-term health and well-being, not short-term pleasure (just as a compassionate mother doesn’t let her child eat all the ice cream she wants, but says, “eat your vegetables”). Research shows self-compassionate people engage in healthier behaviors like exercising, eating well, drinking less, and going to the doctor more regularly.

Fear: Self-compassion is really a form of making excuses for bad behavior.

Truth: Actually, self-compassion provides the safety needed to admit mistakes rather than needing to blame someone else for them. Research shows self-compassionate people take greater personal responsibility for their actions and are more likely to apologize if they’ve offended someone.

Fear: Self-criticism is an effective motivator. 

Truth: It’s not. Our self-criticism tends to undermine self-confidence and leads to fear of failure. If we’re self-compassionate, we will still be motivated to reach our goals—not because we’re inadequate as we are, but because we care about ourselves and want to reach our full potential. Self-compassionate people have high personal standards; they just don’t beat themselves up when they fail.

Credit: Kristin Neff, Ph.D. and Christopher Germer, Ph.D. discussing their research in Mindful, January 29, 2019 article "The Transformative Effects of Mindful Self-Compassion"
Check out what the research has
to say about
self-compassion:
  • Men who are more critical of themselves tend to be more hostile, critical, and controlling of others
  • In situations of adversity or difficulty, men who practice self-compassion are more resilient, take more responsibility for change, and have more hope
  • Men who have self-compassion have less depression and anxiety, and greater life satisfaction
  • ​Self -compassion has been linked to higher motivation for things like: making amends, improving weaknesses, learning through failure, and commitment to goals
  • ​Self-compassionate men are better at managing negative emotions and creating positive ones
Fear: Self-compassion will make us weak and vulnerable.

Truth: In fact, self-compassion is a reliable source of inner strength that confers courage and enhances resilience when we’re faced with difficulties. Research shows self-compassionate people are better able to cope with tough situations like divorce, trauma, or chronic pain.

Fear: Self-compassion is really the same as being self-indulgent.

Truth: It’s actually just the opposite. Compassion inclines us toward long-term health and well-being, not short-term pleasure (just as a compassionate mother doesn’t let her child eat all the ice cream she wants, but says, “eat your vegetables”). Research shows self-compassionate people engage in healthier behaviors like exercising, eating well, drinking less, and going to the doctor more regularly.

Fear: Self-compassion is really a form of making excuses for bad behavior.

Truth: Actually, self-compassion provides the safety needed to admit mistakes rather than needing to blame someone else for them. Research shows self-compassionate people take greater personal responsibility for their actions and are more likely to apologize if they’ve offended someone.

Fear: Self-criticism is an effective motivator. 

Truth: It’s not. Our self-criticism tends to undermine self-confidence and leads to fear of failure. If we’re self-compassionate, we will still be motivated to reach our goals—not because we’re inadequate as we are, but because we care about ourselves and want to reach our full potential. Self-compassionate people have high personal standards; they just don’t beat themselves up when they fail.

Credit: Kristin Neff, Ph.D. and Christopher Germer, Ph.D. discussing their research in Mindful, January 29, 2019 article "The Transformative Effects of Mindful Self-Compassion"
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